How Married Men Feel After Cheating
Married men often have conflicting ideals that prevent them from achieving their goals. *These ideals do not involve alcoholism, drugs, or other forms of vices. Also, conflicts do not arise because of perceptions that are centered on financial issues that can be easily remedied by checking websites. These conflicting ideals usually arise as a result of the man's ego. Some married men think that infidelity is the route through which they can finally achieve happiness
Stroking the Male Ego
It seems logical to believe that a married man feels rather
good after cheating.
Marriage has a way of breaking down a man's sense of self worth.
Immediately after cheating, men usually experience a sense of vitality as a result of a perceived recovery of some self worth.
Even after a married man has been unfaithful to their wife and admitted it was wrong, many still do it again (or consider doing it again). While some point to a physiological sexual hunger supposedly
beyond their control, the truth is that repeat offenders often cheat to feed their ego.
Men like to take care of women who are gentle soft and submissive
as this supports their idea of masculinity. Part of the
illusion that cheating husbands embrace is that their wives didn't
allow them the dignity of being the dominant member in the relationship.
Ironically, a byproduct of cheating is a reduced sense of dignity. Cheaters realize
that their masculinity is expressed by staying committed to
their wife, and not by fulfilling some fantasy with a woman who has not
made any commitment.
When responsibility is taken by a person, freedom lies therein.
The Journey of Repentance
One thing worth noting is that after men get
married, they are usually much more comfortable around women and therefore
project a certain attractiveness to the opposite sex.
This leads some cheating men to assert that they never intended on leaving their wife, but merely wanted to engage
in a hedonistic affair of self indulgence. Women who have entered
into relationships with married men have revealed that one hurtful aspect throughout the illicit affair was the knowledge that he
would never leave his wife meaning their relationship
had no practical future.
It is true that some men think that they are able to love their
wife fully, and yet still be capable of having loveless sex with another
woman. Simply put, men have less emotional integrity than women. A married man who has cheated may feel that
he has never abandoned his wife at all, but merely engaged in a
physical activity which in his view is irrelevant.
In the wake of most affairs, married men come to realize
that the source of their confidence and stability is their commitment
to their wife. Only with this realization is a future
void of sexual transgression possible. It is also becomes apparent
to the shamed husband that the memory of their unfaithfulness will
cling to them into the future, always reminding them of their
deceit. This alone serves as a heavy price to pay
for most cheating husbands.
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