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Signs of Cheating Men: Changes in His Attitude Toward You
Has he got attitude?
Attitudes are enduring beliefs or opinions that cause people to
respond to another in a particular manner, and the process of changing
attitudes is known as persuasion.
Research has shown that the key ingredients for persuasion to
take place are the source, the message, and the audience. However,
cognitive dissonance theory explains that when people experience
tension due to their behavior, they often adjust their attitudes
in order to reduce that tension.
Plainly, people often take the most convenient attitude in consideration
of the actions they have committed. This is no less true when
a person is wondering how to tell if a man is cheating.
If you notice your man exhibiting blaming behavior, or falsely
accusing you, this may be accompanied with further negative projections
in your direction and even the reverse psychology of him blaming
you for having an affair.
Petty arguments over factual periods of time, rejection of your
affections when you try to satisfy him, and lots of lies and excuses
may also be signs that your man is cheating.
Of course, mankind’s largest aptitude for change lies in
men’s attitudes to women, and in women’s attitudes toward
themselves.
An unexpected declaration that he is ‘going out tonight’,
or ‘I need some space’, is certainly debilitating for
the hardest of female hearts, but what is actually of crucial importance
is what the woman believes of herself. Without a healthy self esteem
herself, the victim of infidelity is not only liable to actually tolerate
this gross mistreatment, but is also in grave danger of severe emotional
damage from a man who is most likely suffering from emotional damage
and self doubt himself. The blind leading the blind, can only result
in both groups of people being hurt.
Guilt and its signals
Guilt is part of the human conscience like physical pain
is a gift of self protection. Without it we would continue to damage
others without the slightest reflection as to the merits of our
actions.
Due to the guilt that a unfaithful man may be predisposed to feel,
he initially may appear unusually attentive to his partner.
But eventually will display a definite change in attitude toward
everyone in the home. Often
the justification will be that the partner has precipitated the
infidelity due to her shortcomings.
To predict the future, we need logic but we also need faith and
imagination. Sometimes our faith and imagination defy logic itself,
and this is the wonderful aspect of our humanity.
Both the cheater, and the cheated, display qualities of clumsiness
and fumbling, in order to resolve an issue within themselves that
is not only damaging to another, but self destructive as well.
The lunacy of asking the person you are cheating on ‘do
you think it is possible to love more than one person at a time?’
may be apparent to an already vigilant partner. However, in the eyes
of the perpetrator it is a step toward justification.
Reluctance by the victim to address her suspicions
and reluctance to accept the consequences however devastating they
may be is equally self destructive as the damage continues in a
never ending cycle.
Resources:
http://www.infidelitysupport.com/
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